The woman enjoyed a lengthy and fulfilling marriage until she questioned her husband, inadvertently but insightfully, “Can you describe me after 15 years of marriage?” It was a momentous moment of self-reflection. This seemingly innocent question would set off a series of events that would change their relationship, starting with a pivotal insight.
At his wife’s request, the husband stood back and considered what made his wife special. He started to mentally relive the years they had spent together, remembering the beautiful moments that had woven the fabric of his marriage together with the laughter, tears, and shared dreams. He considered the advantages she had, the things that fitted her, and the characteristics that set her apart.
He started to describe his feelings for her while looking into her eyes. He referred to her as their relationship’s “rock,” the one who stood by them no matter what obstacles they faced. He commended her for her persistent compassion and her capacity to look for the good in life even in the face of adversity. He spoke about her humor, her tenacity, and the way she made their place seem like home. He described how she had changed into a different person over the years.
His statements were a sincere assertion of their close bond, rather than just a list of their physical characteristics. They stood for the developing understanding, respect, and affection that had developed between them.
Their emotional connection was strengthened and their deep love for one another was reaffirmed by this straightforward self-expression activity. It was a moment of realization that loving someone meant more than just admiring and comprehending their physical appeal.
They came to understand at that point that their love went beyond appearances and was based on a solid foundation of shared experiences, steadfast support, and a sincere admiration for each other’s inner beauty. They realized that each other was more than just the surface and that each other was a part of their souls, so even though they were holding to one other, they knew their love would endure.
